November 21, 2016

Tatted by Myra Stilborn
Tatted by Myra Stilborn

I used to collect bookmarks. I had a whole little basket full of them. Most I had purchased, or someone had made for me. One, a friend brought back from England for me. It was a representation of a “jam butty” – a piece of bread with jam smeared on it. This and other bookmarks like it were meant to represent things actually found in books. Oh my…

Despite having all those bookmarks, though, I rarely used a real bookmark when I was reading – although I promise you I never used a real jam butty!

I usually marked my place in books with a piece torn off a paper napkin, or a tissue, or perhaps the subscription card out of a magazine. Now I often use the hold slip that identifies a book for me on the shelf at the library.

Still, I enjoyed looking through them from time to time, and remembering the circumstances in which I’d acquired it. I no longer have that collection, which I regret. I suppose that I “decluttered” them at some point. I do have a few, like the one in the photo above. I couldn’t declutter that one!

There are other bookmarks in our lives these days, as well – the many webpages we save in our bookmarks on our computers. Those are very handy things, but I confess mine are as jumbled as the ones in my long-ago basket. And I admit mine need decluttering!

Internet bookmarks are very handy, especially for those of us who are writers and who do a lot of online research. It’s amazing the things we accumulate in the name of research!

It seems to me that memories are another form of bookmark – a way to mark our place at a special event in our lives so that we can go back and relive it. Unfortunately, we don’t have as much choice in what gets bookmarked in our experiences, so there are some negative ones marked as well as the positive.

It is so good to be able to go back in our mind’s logbook and find a place we’ve marked, to relive that scene, or to remember a person who has died. Such memories are treasures, as are the pages we bookmark in other ways and for other reasons.

Here’s one of the little bookmarks in my memories. On November 30th, 1960, my grandparents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. A beautiful table was set up in their dining room. Many photos had been taken.

A little Beth who was about to turn four wanted her picture taken as well. So I was given a corsage to hold, and I posed in front of the table. I can still remember posing for that photo.img_0003

I’m grateful that I wasn’t told “No” – which could have been a logical response. This memory speaks to me now of love and acceptance and understanding, and I am grateful. I’m also grateful my memory bookmarked this event for me.

letter BIn celebration of the letter B, I’d like you to think back on some precious memories you have bookmarked in your mind’s logbook. You don’t need to share them unless you want to, but I’d like you to have that warm feeling of remembrance on this day.

And just for fun, here’s a website I bookmarked, called Forgotten Bookmarks, compiled by a person who is a used and rare bookseller and who comes across some very odd things used as bookmarks. It makes fascinating reading!

(As I mentioned last week, this year I’m using the alphabet as inspiration for my weekly blog posts. I hope to see you back next week, to find out what C is for.)

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  1. I have a lot of bookmarks too, mostly promotional or ones my kids made when I was a kid, but I can never find them when I need one! So I also use whatever is to hand – slips of paper, business cards, pencils, or whatever else is nearby!

  2. I can see remembering that day of the anniversary corsage. So cute. I remember wearing my communion dress to church for weeks and weeks after the actual ceremony. I loved that dress so much and sometimes when I was in a difficult situation I would PRETEND I was wearing it to give me confidence. I don’t have any pictures of it, but thank goodness it’s bookmarked forever…

  3. Adorable picture and beautiful bookmark. What a lovely collection. I use the skinny page-marker post-its in most of my books. When I was a youngster, it was torn off corners of newspaper or notebook pages. I have a few “bookmarks” in my mind of my boys when they were younger. I treasure those snapshots of life in the form of memories bookmarked in my brain.

  4. Beautiful bookmark, Beth, but like you, I use whatever thing is handy!!!
    I guess I’m a bookmarker, only some of the almost forgotten have been tucked in trunks, until…. my little niece comes prancing out wearing a gunnysack type “dress-up dress” that one daughter wore and another niece borrowed every chance she got! And, just yesterday, we had a sewing lesson and when we dug in a trunk in the attic, she found a strip of yellow, ruffled fabric that was left from prom dress I’d made for youngest daughter. (in the same era!) I really should downsize the physical bookmarks!!! Thanks Beth for this thought provoking post!!!

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