A Word With Beth — About Well-Meant Words
Instead of a grammar post today, this will be a bit of a rant, but hopefully a gentle, thoughtful rant.
There’s a phrase that bothers me every time I hear it. I know what is meant by it, but still it bothers me. Very often, people who work for a cause with great dedication are said to “work tirelessly” for that cause. I think we do them, and their deep commitment to what they believe in, a disservice by saying this.
As I said, I know it is well-meant, but truthfully, are any of these people really tireless? I think it says more about them to acknowledge that they sometimes work until they are exhausted, but they continue despite this because the work that they do is important to them.
Like most clichés, this one is perhaps the easy way out — it lets the speaker praise the person without having to find original, well thought out words to indicate the true depth of the person’s devotion. Clichés can be used too easily, as anyone who has had their writing critiqued will know — one is warned over and over not to use them.
So why do we use them? Is it ease of use? Commonality? A knowledge that the listener or reader will “get” what we mean? Laziness? Or something else?
What are your thoughts? Is there a cliché that you think shortchanges the actual experience?
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I get it! When I’m writing, I type what I know to be an extremely trite word, phrase, or an entire sentence. And I must admit, there is a bit of the ol’ hanging of the head. I read a post about layering as you develop characters. So, you’re saying, to do this effectively, we need to be Original. We need to work at delving into the truth of what we’re describing or informing. I, as always, so glad I stopped by dear Beth. Great information.
Oh, how I love how you worded this: “We need to work at delving into the truth of what we’re describing or informing.” YES!!!! Thank you, Pamela!
Thank you for this post, Beth and Pamela for your comment. I really dislike clichés. To me using clichés is easy. To delve into the truth of what we are expressing takes more effort – but it’s worth it! Expressing the truth honors all involved. best, deborah
Well said article, Ms. Stilborn. I know what you mean. For example, I’ve heard this phrase “Same difference” and it is driving me crazy. I think “Well, an orange and a wooly mammoth are both not able to release spores like a mushroom, but are they similar? NO!”
I see what you mean about “work tirelessly” too. 🙂
I think we all allow ourselves to be trapped by cliches. I agree with you on “work tirelessly.” For most people involved in charitable work, it is a passion larger than themselves. They do so because they love what they are doing and know it is their’s to do. I enjoyed Pamela’s comments and agree.
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